Back story: I've had HSV-2 for three and a half years.
Make sure you wash the toy before and after, and don't share it.
You might also consider taking antiviral drug therapy for genital herpes to reduce the amount of virus you shed.
We started making out, and he wanted to go further, and I kept making up excuses, but he was persistent (and I wanted to have sex with him, too, I just didn't want to tell him my dirty little secret). We had a short conversation about it, then proceeded to have great sex.
We're just friends, not dating or anything, and it felt easier to tell him because I had nothing to lose.
Met a guy, we clicked immediately, went on one date, but he has been away a lot for work, and it seems like his interest has disappeared.