And what she sees is not that I'm working, she sees the closed office door—we both work at home—so she's feeling abandoned.
If you are stingy with yourself, be it in terms of time, money or attention, you will most likely attract a lover who lacks generosity toward you.
If you do not take care of your physical self, your partner can hardly be expected to view your body as a temple.
This paradigm presumes that we are incomplete and require a partner to make us whole, and feeds into the "hole in the soul syndrome," a core sense of insufficiency leading to feelings of emptiness, neediness and self-reproach.
The irony is that the very sense of neediness that drives us to seek out love is exactly what will impede love from blossoming.
If you listen to and honor your inner messages, your partner will respect your inner radar.