Just as you deserve to heal and move on, so does your ex. Avoid Being Each Other’s Crutch You loved, you lost, you’re now in mourning. If your ex calls, emails, texts, or stops by seeking comfort for his broken heart? Instead, kindly but firmly let him know that you are no longer his go-to support system.
Rather than become a shut-in out of fear of your ex encounter, embrace the possibility and plan for it. In fact, your ex encounter will probably be a lot less dramatic than this scenario. In bumping into your ex, you may be reminded of what you loved about him or her. Instead, summon that inner strength, smile politely, and extricate yourself from the situation as soon as is possible without being rude.
In giving yourself a six-month cushion, you greatly increase your chances of getting over your ex.
In the throes of post-breakup angst, you may not like the sound of that. Rather than fight what you know is right for you, give yourself permission to put the six-month rule into practice.
Instead of thinking ‘Oh sh*t, the bastard can’t have cared that much if he can get over me so quickly!
’ remind yourself that if he has truly dashed out too soon, it will probably end up with a negative result.
A little bit of bruised ego is natural but if you become consumed by his new relationship or exploits, it may be time to ask whether you’re really over him, and if you are; what is it about your own life that makes this news so unbearable.